After 19 years of marriage, a 64-year old Belgian found out he married an ex-man. The husband, named Jan, got the shock of his life when he discovered that his Indonesian wife, Monica, was actually born a man and later got a sex change before they met and got married in 1993.
Jan told a local newspaper, Het Neiuwsblad, that he felt like being assaulted. He also admitted that he faced legal problems with Belgian immigration in bringing his 48-year old wife to Belgium.
“It was a difficult task to bring Monica to Belgium. The Belgian courts had serious doubts about the authenticity of her birth and her identity papers, but over time had accepted it anyway. I thought she was an attractive woman, all woman. She had no male traits,”, Jan said.
He also said that both of them agreed not to have children since he already had two from previous marriage. Before the startling discovery, the couple seemed to live a normal life and his children had treated his ‘wife‘ like a big sister. Apparently, Monica was able to deceive all of them, even pretending to have menstruation using sanitary towels.
“Even during sex, I never noticed anything.”
Things however started to change when Monica got a full-time job. He revealed that she started to make frequent night outs at clubs, wearing seductive clothes such as ‘ultra-short skirts and tiny tops’. He also discovered some romantic messages from other men in her computer. And worst of all, a friend told him that there were rumors about Monica actually being a transsexual.
When the inevitable confrontation arose, it led to domestic arguments. Unfortunately for the Belgian husband, authorities refused annulment of marriage. He is presently undergoing psychiatric treatment.